 I am 21 and my boyfriend is almost 30. We have been together about 3 1/2 years and I love him very much. Neither of us are significantly over weight. We plan on getting married in the future, but I am worried about his lack of sexual desire. I know that I have a veracious appetite for sex, but he rarely wants to make any sexual or romantic contact whatsoever. I will try not to ask or hint at trying to have sex, but when I do I am promptly turned down with a multitude of excuses accompanied by a whiny little voice. His complaints are very discouraging, but I'm willing to do anything to please him. I will stop asking, and nothing about sex will be uttered by either of us for almost 2 weeks. By then I am about to scream from the lack of attention, so I try to be sexy and come on to him. I really have tried having patience and giving him space and tried to initiate things. We aren't married and I am concerned about his unwillingness to compromise, or notice my needs, will cause problems in our relationship and our ability to start a family. We are very much in love and I'm very happy to be with him! I have asked him to go to the doctor to see if it may be lack of sleep or depression, but he puts it off like it is all right to be intimate once or twice a month (even though he knows it makes me feel very lonely and unneeded). In addition to this when we do have intercourse he gets in, gets off and goes about doing other things before I know it. I'm on the pill and we regularly use condoms, yet he still pulls out (even after using the condom, the pills and being together for years). He says he wants to get married in the next year or so, but it is hard to be with someone that ignores that sex even goes on in normal relationships. HELP ME! What is going on? Am I just addicted to him or is there something abnormal about us? |
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